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Pages 1510-1513 Clarity Index Section C 9C. Quality Clarity Section Your Relation May Need Some Z I P

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Clarity Index Section C 9C. Quality Clarity Section:
Your Relationships May Need Some Z.I.P.

Relationships are really what make the world go ‘round, aren’t they? I mean, good, positive, healthy and meaningful relationships provide us with the richest experiences we have here on this old earth of ours. Your loving spouse who shares everything with you; that best friend who connects with you like few others do; the people at work who appreciate you and help you to become the best that you can be. This is what brings joy to life!

But… relationships can also be the bane of our existence! What really brings more pain in this life than a broken relationship, especially when it isn’t just broken but downright ugly!

So, it behooves us to do all that we can to keep our relationships zipping right along, doesn’t it? If we put our very best into our relationships, we can almost guarantee getting the very best out of our relationships! So, always be positive and loving as much as possible and get away from the poisonous destruction.

Through the years I have spent hundreds of hours working with people in their relationships: Marriages, friendships, working relationships and social relationships. Through it all I have seen some wonderful things and some terrible things. It truly is the good, the bad and the ugly, 2009 and going back!!!

But, I have been able to find three core elements of successful relationships. These are things that, when done over time, begin to create for you the kinds of relationships that you truly desire and need. They are the kinds of relationships you have always dreamed of and want.

The key to remembering these three items is the acronym Z.I.P. Z.I.P. stands for three things you can do – and begin to do immediately – to improve any and all of your relationships. They are:

Put some ZEST into your relationships.
Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships.
Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.

Let’s take a closer look at each of these three:

Put some ZEST into your relationships.
By Zest, I primarily mean fun. Relationships were meant to be fun! We wouldn’t have been made with the capacity to have fun if relationships weren’t supposed to have a little zest in them!

Think about it: Don’t you usually start out most healthy relationships with a lot of fun times. Whether it is going out to dinner or a ballgame, or spending time playing a game or even just a lively talk, you usually have fun as a major part of the relationship. Fun is some of the glue that bonds the relationship.

But as life goes on, specifically in a marriage, but in all relationships really, the fun starts to go by the wayside. More and more it is about getting the job done, whatever the job may be. So, always use your positive creative imagination for romance. Don’t be lazy and make what has always loved you into nostalgia.  

To restore the relationship, to put a little zip into it, we need to reintroduce the idea of “zest.”

What about you? Have you lost the zest? What can you do to get it back? Think of a specific relationship you have: What were the fun things you did at the beginning of the relationship that acted as the glue that bonded you together? Now, commit to doing those again and see if your relationship doesn’t begin to soar again! If you can, develop new fun things to do together so you can both start an adventure of fun together! However, always go into a relationship righteously with clarity.

Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships.
First a couple of clarifications: One, I don’t just mean intimacy in the currently common understanding, that is, sexual intimacy. I mean for all intents and purposes, taking your relationship to a deeper level. Second, I don’t mean that you have to start doing group hugs with your workmates or having revelation sessions where the tissue flows freely.

What I do mean is that every relationship that is mutually satisfying has a level of depth to it that provides meaning. This is really what the search is for in our relationships: meaning.

Remember when you first started your relationship, whether with your spouse or friend. All of that time was spent opening up, telling who you are, where you were from, what your likes and dislikes are. There was a deep sense of satisfaction with the relationship – that is why it continued. You liked who they were and you enjoyed being known by them.

But then something happens. We get to a certain level and the pursuit of depth ends. We stop sharing feeling, likes, and dislikes. We stop sharing joys and dreams and fears. Instead, we settle into routine. The daily grind takes over and we stop knowing one another and we simply exist together. Now don’t get me wrong, every time you get together doesn’t have to be deep. Remember, I am the one who advocates in the previous paragraphs just having plain old fun sometimes. But there is a need for regular times of intimate connection where we go deeper with others. Being positive is perfect.

This maybe particularly hard for many male species like me, but it is not only possible but healthy and needed! If we want to have the kinds of relationship we were made to have, we have to open ourselves up to having others know us and for us to know others.

True meaningful relationships come when we are loved and accepted for who we are at our core, not simply for acting the right way in our relationships so as to keep the other person in it.

Think about the relationships you would like to see improvement in. Take some time in the coming weeks and months to spend time just talking and getting to a deeper level in your relationship. Specifically, let the other person deeper into your world. You can’t force the other person to be more intimate and you certainly can’t say, “Let’s get together and have an intimate conversation,” because that would be too contrived. But you can make a decision for yourself that you will let others into your world. Perhaps this will be the catalyst for them doing the same.

You can guard yourself from intimacy but then you won’t go much deeper and you will feel a longing in your heart for more, or you can begin the deepening process and see your relationships change for the better.

Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.
The most meaningful relationships we have are those that are held together by a common purpose and vision for what the relationship can accomplish, not only for those involved but also for a greater good. The greater good of value and quality is being positive in modern civilization.

Let’s face it, when people have a common purpose they feel like they are part of a team and they feel bound together in that relationship. Even when people may be disappointed in the people they are in relationship with, if they have a purpose, such as raising the children, they are much more likely to stick it out. Purpose creates bonds.

So what happens if we are proactively involved in seeking out a common purpose with those who we want to have a relationship with or those who we already have a relationship with but we would like to see it go deeper with? Well, it gets better and stronger.

Think about your strongest relationships. Aren’t they centered on at least one area of purpose or a common goal?

What about a relationship that has cooled? Think back and see if perhaps you used to have a common purpose but it has gone by the wayside.

And what of your desire to see a relationship grow? Take some time to begin to cultivate a common positive purpose. Sit down with that person and tell them that you would like to have some common positive goals, some purposes that you pursue together. As you develop these, you will see your relationship strengthen in ways you never imagined!

Let’s recap: You want your relationships to show a little “zip?” Then put a little Z.I.P. in them:

Put some ZEST into your relationships.
Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships.
Develop a Positive PURPOSE in your relationships.

-- Chris Widener

Comments
A secret to creativity and originality when you see something or hear something that touches the heart, fascinates the senses, or is interesting to the mind. You get a thesaurus and dictionary and learn how to write or say it different. That’s how you get your original creativity. Enrich my heart, mind, mouth, hands and me, with faith, hope, love, romance, knowledge, understanding, positive creativity and clarity, that I may run, rise, rest with positive original creativity.
~ Carlos B. Toomer (July 9, 1972 a Heart of July Ruby Red Red Red Wine Birth)

#48 Pg. 16 Marriage Relationship Pull Line But She is Already Married 

I want to be the hand that raise’s your veil. The Recipe of more than you or yours and or you all…I would like and love to be the Recipient of more than  “I do” when you or you all say “yes”.

Carlos Bernard Ryan Warren Heart Swift Toomer Windsor-Cross The or A House of Impetus 

   (He was Born: 7/9/1972 ) & (She was Born: 12/13/1989)

And or We was Born 10, 000 Years before Jesus Civilization when Communication Begin here on Earth and or then…or than….the Diamond Effect or Affect Started its and or its Process on or to and or toward Civilization…. 

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Elizabeth II Regina Alexandra Mary Rose Toomer Windsor-Cross The House of Impetus EQII QRII #76 Pg.17 (The Queen was Born: 4/21/1926  )
 

 









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